It hurts you know..

People have the freedom to love, to choose who we give our hearts to. But what’s the use of this freedom if the person you love also has the freedom not to love you back? (From a text message)

This has always been a common situation. We could always witness this in telenovelas, movies and radio dramas. Usually, the situation is that the female protagonist loves someone who doesn’t love her yet another male loves her but she doesn’t love that male back. We could even witness this happening to our friends and even find ourselves also experiencing this one.

I would always remember a text message from a friend saying “There are two dilemmas that rattle the human skull: how do you get rid of someone who won’t go and how do you hang on to someone who won’t stay.”

This made me reflect a bit. Why do things have to be this way? Why the person we like usually does doesn’t like us back and the person who likes us is someone whom we don’t have feelings for. It seems like a cycle - we like someone who doesn’t like us and someone who likes is not the one we like.

This kind of problem is not a stranger anymore. It has always been around that others are used to the pain it gives already.

Getting rid of someone who doesn’t bother to leave is really a big dilemma. It is indeed brain-damaging of thinking ways on how to let that person go. Sometimes, we just wish we could just shout straight to the person’s face and say “evaporate!” but that just doesn’t seem to be a good idea at all. Oftentimes, we would ignore this person trying to let the person feel that we really do not feel the same way. It is hard because you try as best as you can not to hurt the person. But no matter what you do, that person doesn’t really bother to leave at all. It is so difficult when you are in this kind of situation because you have to be very careful with whatever actions you make especially that this might set the person’s hopes high.

Hanging on to someone who won’t stay is also a very difficult situation. It really pains a lot to know that a person you have learned to love doesn’t love you back. We surely do know a lot of friends experiencing this kind of dilemma and I surely do have lot of friends who experience this one. It is so painful seeing people cry wishing that the person they like would also learn to like them back. But this seems to be impossible for some when the person they like already has someone. We would oftentimes say that that person is numb or “manhid” for not being able to notice what we feel.
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It has always been like that. Life sometimes, seems to be unfair. Not everyone becomes happy. A lot get hurt. And it is oftentimes because of one reason – LOVE.