"Love: An Act of the Will, Not of the Heart"

As defined in the Merriam-Webster dictionary, love is the unselfish and benevolent concern for others. Almost everybody, if not all, know how to show love. We show this through our family, friends and lovers. But the question is, is love really an act of will or an act of the heart?

Before I give my point of view, let me give you first a definition of will and heart as well. Will is a power of controlling one’s own actions or emotions or a wish or desire after combined with determination. The heart is the whole personality, the emotional or moral as distinguished from the intellectual nature.

Learning these definitions from the dictionary, it is now time to analyze if it is really an act of will or an act of the heart.

Personally, I certainly believe in the statement “Love: An Act of the Will, Not of the Heart.” What made me say so? I could often associate will with our mind. Meaning, you use your brain in loving and you really think about it. When it is your will that you use, it simply means that it is your own decision and you are definitely aware of the actions that you are making. When you love someone using your will, it therefore means that you really love the person. It is because when you use your mind, it follows that you have analyzed and already thought about the effects of loving that person. When you also love a person using your will, it means that you love that you love that person whole-heartedly regardless of who the person is. Whether the person is good or bad, you will not cease loving that person.

When you use your heart above your mind, you easily get carried away with your emotions. The decisions that you make would depend on how you feel and not with what is the right thing to do. When you use your heart without thinking about it, it could even lead in making things complicated. So if you would only depend on your feelings, what kind of future lies ahead? When you use your heart, it is possible that you could love a person today and forget your feelings when you’ll find out the negative characteristics of that person.

Love is such a dangerous thing because it can actually lead us to many things. That is why we have to be very careful in whatever actions that we take. We always have to think twice and use our brain when it comes in loving a person. We have to remember that love is an act of the will and not of the heart.